Sounds nasty...100%
All of it. The entirety-from family to kids, to mental anguish, and cost. Courts still favor the women.
I won't.
I am the only person in my circle. My bro (3rd wife), one BIL (2nd wife), another BIL (once divorced-won't marry again), and SIL (2nd husband).
I have hopes that my patience will win. There is something to be said about "for better or worse". It has nothing to do with religion or God. I still know my spouse is a good human. The alternative is a nightmare in so many ways.
We may have our on line differences...but good luck to you.