Hankk Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 As many of you may know, I have sought the advice of this august body on several occasions regarding somewhat complicated relationships that I find myself in. I once again find myself in a dilemma. I had a serious highschool sweetheart. Beautiful. Smart. Funny. You couldn't ask for more. Problem is, I was going away to college and I had promised myself that I wouldn't leave a girlfriend at home. So I broke up with her and did your typical sow your oats thing at a large midwestern university. Didn't keep in touch. Well, fast forward 20 years. I hear, from a mutual friend of ours, that she is returning to town. I get a call from her axing me if I am going to the 20th reunion. We chat like its old times, much to my suprise. I hadn't bought a ticket, so I didn't go to the reunion. Shortly thereafter, we met at an old haunt for drinks. It was as if no time had passed. We fell into old routines almost instantly. It was almost eerie - no it was eerie. Moreover, there was undeniable attraction. Anyone looking at us would have thought we were lovers. Here comes the kicker - she's married. (To a douchebag, I have come to understand. I'm not sure if it is relevant.) We close the place. Nothing untoward takes place. I talk to her on the phone for a couple more hours. The next time I see her is at dinner with the mutual friend (who knew us both in high school.) He said that seeing "K" and I together after 20 years was the goddamdest thing that he ever saw. Total flashback -nothing had changed. I exchange e-mails with her regularly, talk to her occasionally and have seen her a couple times since. Its only a matter a time, perhaps not too much time, until something serious happens if we continue on this course. What do you do? Stay away because she's married and who knows what will happen with that? Or do you look at it as being given a second chance - one that you can't let go by without trying to do something? Or do you just get together with her a couple of times for old time's sake (the years have been incredibly kind to her). Man, the burdens that I bear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
10g_DBA Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Stay away, dirtbag. You had your chance. Don't mess with another man's wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billay Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Does she have kids? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 married? where are you from Mass? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piranha Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Stay away, dirtbag. You had your chance. Don't mess with another man's wife. 1448833[/snapback] Well she would have to agree to a relationship first, and split with her husband before anything happens my 2 cents Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 oh... and stay away... if his husband is that bad, let him take care of business before you get involved Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big F'n Dave Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Wait just a f*cking second!!! Hankk's straight?!?!?!? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 (edited) Does she have kids? 1448834[/snapback] if hankkenfurder isn't fishing here, that's probably the most relevant question IMO. either way though, probably shouldnt get too involved until she knows exactly where things are going with her Megan Foxbag husband. if you value her at all as a person/friend/ex-flame, don't f*ck up her marriage for a little "old times sake" shaggin. Edited May 2, 2006 by Azazello1313 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pope Flick Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Stay away, dirtbag. You had your chance. Don't mess with another man's wife. 1448833[/snapback] +1. Bad karma. Plus, if she cheats on a husband what does that say about her, and do you want to know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marauders11 Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Wait just a f*cking second!!! Hankk's straight?!?!?!? 1448852[/snapback] +1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skippy Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 if hankkenfurder isn't fishing here, that's probably the most relevant question IMO. either way though, probably shouldnt get too involved until she knows exactly where things are going with her Megan Foxbag husband. if you value her at all as a person/friend/ex-flame, don't f*ck up her marriage for a little "old times sake" shaggin. 1448854[/snapback] Pretty on the button in my opinion. It would be one thing if the Megan Foxbag was out of the picture but since he is not then this is not somewhere you want to start a relationship. I've seen some very bad things come out of situations just like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 cheaters are cheaters... if she does it to him... and things get more serious... she'll do it to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billay Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 We'll lets get this straight. Are we talking about renewing a relationship? or are we just talking about nailing our old girlfriend? It's always fun (and often convenient) to rekindle a hs love, but that's a far cry from trying to take this woman away from her husband. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Captains Wench Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 If she’s truly unhappy with her husband, she’ll leave him eventually but don’t get involved before that. If she never leaves her husband – it just wasn’t meant to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
REZ Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Back off and let her figure things out with the husband. Splits with him, then you can take a shot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Easy n Dirty Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 How big are her...ah, never mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 cheaters are cheaters... if she does it to him... and things get more serious... she'll do it to you. 1448871[/snapback] eh, this situation is a little different than your routine cheating scenario, IMO. rough spot in a marriage, meets up with an old flame...that creates an emotional cocktail (nostalgia, regret, loneliness) that can slay even good, normally faithful people under the right circumstances. but that's just all the more reason for hannkenfurd to be careful as chit about what he's getting into here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cliaz Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 This has bad written all over it. Do not continue to stay in contact with her. You are opening a can of worms you do not want to get in to. Trust me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 (edited) eh, this situation is a little different than your routine cheating scenario, IMO. rough spot in a marriage, meets up with an old flame...that creates an emotional cocktail (nostalgia, regret, loneliness) that can slay even good, normally faithful people under the right circumstances. but that's just all the more reason for hannkenfurd to be careful as chit about what he's getting into here. 1448884[/snapback] How many marriages don't hit rough spots though? And how many guys are out there who'd take advantage of that? I am not saying that that is what he is doing, but morals are morals. The 'grass is greener' scenerio is a dangerous and tempting one. If things were meant to be, fine. But she needs to take care of her business first, if she doesn't - than she's a cheater. Edited May 2, 2006 by Duchess Jack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
godtomsatan Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 I saw this movie, and it starred Robin Williams. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billay Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 How many marriages don't hit rough spots though? And how many guys are out there who'd take advantage of that? I am not saying that that is what he is doing, but morals are morals. 1448898[/snapback] Remember Duchess, Az isn't married.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hankk Posted May 2, 2006 Author Share Posted May 2, 2006 Stay away, dirtbag. You had your chance. Don't mess with another man's wife. 1448833[/snapback] Dirtbag? Besides, if "Thou Shall Not Kill" doesn't mean what is says, why can't I covet my neighbors' wife? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hankk Posted May 2, 2006 Author Share Posted May 2, 2006 Does she have kids? 1448834[/snapback] Nope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefjay Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 (edited) Loser. Bag her and move on. Don't mess with another dudes wife. So where does she live? Edited May 2, 2006 by chiefjay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornhoolio Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Do it...Do it .....DO IT!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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