dmarc117 Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 my wife and i are currentl having this debate....just wondering what others think and do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 We had a big thread on this started by Chief dick before his son was born.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aqualung Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 (edited) No spanking, but there sure was a lot of snot in three corners of the room when they were sent to their respective places of discipline. Edited July 7, 2006 by aqualung Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexgaddis Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 All the time, until the cows come home... wait, you mean the kid? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 We had a big thread on this started by Chief dick before his son was born.. Here it is BTW, a lot more threads were very recently moved to the archives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Down Goes Frazia Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 no spanking in our household...... we give wedgies. seriously..... we choose to not discipline that way but I'm not against it either. I've got plenty of 40 year old handprints on my ass from my dad. we have a chair they sit in for a while or just lose rights in the house when they f*ck up...... it works. I gotta say... having twin girls has been pretty easy. they've been best friends from day 1 and are well behaved little girls. we are blessed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmarc117 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Share Posted July 7, 2006 thanks bigjohn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keggerz Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 my parents used to count to 3... Dad never got past 1 with me got to 2 with my sister my brother my poor brother with Mom Mom never got past 1 with me(I was the good child) got to 3 with my sister many times my brother my poor brother in all seriousness my parents gave a swift smack on the ass when warranted but no face smacks or anything like that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 I'm always available for hire if you don't have the heart to beat your kids mercilessly and make them behave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aqualung Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 I'm always available for hire if you don't have the heart to beat your kids mercilessly and make them behave. Well you're just plain selfish for not propagating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DKF Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 I see nothing wrong with a tap on occaison before the age of 10. After that its kinda pointless. But man I do remember the belt. Of course not even that stopped me from doing anything, it just punished me when I did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DMD Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 I have never hit my child and I do not intend on doing it. Fortunately he is not the sort of obstinate kid that can only be reached through something so extreme but I personally disagree with that in the home. When a kid is at home it should be the one place where he is free from being harmed physically IMO and the one place where he will get sat donw and explained to what he did wrong and why it was wrong and how he is going to fix and avoid it. I personally have no problems with schools spanking. I think a child should learn the world is not a happy place if you step outside the rules. I got paddled many times back in my day before schools went soft and it was more of a deterant than D-Hall. The last thing I want is my kid to hate home and think of it as the place of pain while believing the world is full of second chances and esteem building. That is opposite from what I want as a parent. Kids need constant correction as they grow up to learn where lines are at and what is right and wrong. IMO their home needs to be the one place that is about love and understanding and physical discipline should be a last resort that is extreme only for children that you cannot reach in any other way. There are better ways to be firm and teach them in my view. Unless it is the ultra-rare case, spanking at home seems more like a lazy way to parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Down Goes Frazia Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 my parents used to count to 3... i use this daily..... very effective if they hate what happens when you get to 3. they key is here get to 3 a few times & follow thru with the punishment... they have to know you mean what you say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmarc117 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Share Posted July 7, 2006 i was spanked and it worked....so my thinkin is if it deterred me from doing alot of bad things, it will work for my boy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DKF Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Once they get old enough to reason, I've always loved blackmail. Its plain and simple. Here are your two choices... either clean your room, or no phone for a week. It doesn't matter to me. And whatever they chose, they chose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thecerwin Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 My dad tells me about the "psychological" punishments he would give us. Here's an example: My twin brother and I were around 4 or 5 years old and my parents had just bought a brand spanking new car for my mom to drive. For some reason we were messing around in the front yard and one thing led to another and we ended up taking screw drivers to carve drawings and whatnot all over the car. My dad ends up coming out of the house and his jaw just dropped to the ground. We were busted and we knew it. He immediately grabbed us by arms and was leading us to our rooms upstairs. While dragging us to our rooms we were crying our little eyes out because he kept telling us how bad our spankings were gonig to be. Once we got to the bedrooms he told us to sit and wait while he went and got ready for the spankings. My brother and I were absolutely terrified at this point and couldn't stop crying. It turns out that when it came down to spanking time he really didn't have to put any effort into it because we had built up the punishment so much in our heads. Sometime last year we were reminiscing about all the trouble we got into as kids and my dad told us some details we didn't know about that day. When he sat us in our rooms to go get ready for the spankings instead of getting ready he had to laugh about the whole situation with mom. The only reason he went through the motions of spanking us was because he wanted to check up on us. He didn't even need to spank us and I still remember how much trouble we were in that day. I'm lucky to be alive when I think about it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonorator Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 i could never spank my kids, under any circumstance. i don't have it in me to do that. i agree with DMD - it is a lazy way of parenting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egret Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 DMD pretty much nailed it for me. That and all the egg-head book learning I did at a leftist public university studying education with a splash of psychology taught me that their are much more effective methods of extinguishing unwanted behaviors and teaching replacement behaviors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmarc117 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Share Posted July 7, 2006 i have to disagree with dmd. the only person i want spanking my kids(if i choose to do it) is me, not any school. thats the last thing they are there for. that kinda sounds lazy to me. schools are there to teach. parents are there to discipline. imho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wildcat2334 Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 heck yeah, they seem to really like it . Even the timid, shy ones warm up to it eventually. As for kids- I have no problem with it. Boys need some discipline, lord knows I did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cre8tiff Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 (edited) Spanking is an ignorant way to try to parent. You can come up with MUCH more creative ways to punish than simply hitting. Besides what do you do when spanking doesn't work? There is no harsher punishment to go to. We are foster parents and I daresay we have had to deal with problems you people wouldn't even DREAM of, and let me tell you when the 8 year old you are trying to parent has been the recipient of full-strength beatings (fist, electric cords, etc.) from adults, a little tap on the behind is laughable. But make the kid do stairs laps and he listens. Edited July 7, 2006 by cre8tiff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonorator Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 (edited) i don't want my kids spanked anywhere by anyone, especially not at school. we don't have to use fear and physical harm to teach our kids. those that you would like to see receive a good spanking are usually the ones who did not have a real parenting investment in them from an early age. so not doing a good job as a parent and then compensating for it by striking your kids is very, very sad. Edited July 7, 2006 by tonorator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexgaddis Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 When I spank Emma it only makes her more powerfull Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egret Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Let me add that I agreed with DMD on the reasons for not spanking at home. I don't see spanking at school as being an effective deterrent for poor behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 i don't have it in me to do that. I have coupons available on the internnets. Go to www.thisisforyourowngood and look under TimC. You get to choose the belt color we use with every purchase. If it's for a girl, we also have specialists available to show them how to make a sammich, clean the house and make babies. All your kids needs in one easy place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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