Holding the door etc.

[The Holy Roller]

And if they do get the tude with me I'll remember them. And when I get the chance I'll sneeze into my hand right before I shake theirs.

[whomper]

Nope, I get my self worth from within, not from how others treat me. If they treat me that way, it is on them, I did my part, and I can be happy with that.

 

 

 

Wrong! Simply because other folks dont adhere to proper manners and etiquette, does not excuse me from doing so. It is my obligation to conduct myself with appropriate decorum whether other people appreciate it or not. It is not my obligation to correct others for their lack of it as I am not their parents. And attempting to do so is obviously bad manners on your part.

 

 

 

Agree on both counts.

 

I hold the door open all the time. If im in an elevator I always let the women get out first. When I hold the door open for someone and they dont say thank you or if I let someone in when driving and they dont give the courtesy wave or say Thank you it irks me but not enough to stop doing it.

Edited July 8, 2006 by whomper

[dmarc117]

i always perform the revolving door test to see how selfish someone is.....i walk into the door 1st and see if they attempt to push the door or just let me push it for them. its simple and quite effective.

[The Holy Roller]

Agree on both counts.

 

I hold the door open all the time. If im in an elevator I always let a big juicy one when the women get out first. When I hold the door open for someone and they dont say thank you or if I let someone in when driving and they dont give the courtesy wave or say Thank you it irks me but not enough to stop doing it.

 

 

Honesty is refreshing.

Edited July 8, 2006 by The Holy Roller

[Jimmy Neutron]

I'm very old school when it comes to manners.

 

I hold the door and elevator, and will wait longer for women. I'll take time to escort an old person across a street or busy parking lot if I sense they are stressed about it.

 

I do these things both as a service to others and because I get a deep sense of satisfaction from it.

 

It is very rare I hold a door for a person and they to not thank me.

 

I also often stop in traffic to let other people in and find that others return in kind. The exception in traffic are the idiots that race down a lane that's coming to an end and then expect to dart into your lane. I make darn sure they don't get in front of me.

[rocknrobn26]

I agree w/ all the door holders and I'll add it is very seldom that someone doesn't say thank you. Plus I find that opening doors, allowing someone into the main stream of traffic is contagious.

[Chargerz]

I generally hold the door for anyone who is close behind me, and go out of my way to wait and hold it for elderly people, people in wheel chairs, on crutches, carrying a lot of stuff, or with little children.

 

On the bus or subway, I'll give up my seat to anyone seatless who needs to sit more than I do - pretty much the same group listed above.

 

It's not a chivalry-gender thing; it's a common curtesy thing. Sure there are people who don't apreciate it. But I'm not going to be a jerk to everyone because some people are jerks to me.

 

I'm seeing a softer side of Squeegiebo.

[dmarc117]

I generally hold the door for anyone who is close behind me, and go out of my way to wait and hold it for elderly people, people in wheel chairs, on crutches, carrying a lot of stuff, or with little children.

 

On the bus or subway, I'll give up my seat to anyone seatless who needs to sit more than I do - pretty much the same group listed above.

 

It's not a chivalry-gender thing; it's a common curtesy thing. Sure there are people who don't apreciate it. But I'm not going to be a jerk to everyone because some people are jerks to me.

 

 

 

would you hold a door for me?

[Squeegiebo]

would you hold a door for me?

 

 

Duh. I said I hold doors for handicapped people.

[cliaz]

Wrong! Simply because other folks dont adhere to proper manners and etiquette, does not excuse me from doing so. It is my obligation to conduct myself with appropriate decorum whether other people appreciate it or not. It is not my obligation to correct others for their lack of it as I am not their parents. And attempting to do so is obviously bad manners on your part.

 

 

 

Wrong. This is why people think it's okay to be an a$$ and rude to other people. There is a difference between:

 

 

1. "Excuse me, you didn't say thank you and I think that is rude."

 

and

 

2. "B1tch, get yer fat a$$ over here and say thank you."

 

 

 

That is why I always day "You are welcome" to them. If they forgot they quickly say they are sorry and say thank you, if they are rude, they just keep going or say something smart.

 

 

let people treat you that way is sickening and just helps fuel the problem in this world.

[Ziachild007]

I'm very old school when it comes to manners.

 

I hold the door and elevator, and will wait longer for women. I'll take time to escort an old person across a street or busy parking lot if I sense they are stressed about it.

 

I do these things both as a service to others and because I get a deep sense of satisfaction from it.

 

It is very rare I hold a door for a person and they to not thank me.

 

I also often stop in traffic to let other people in and find that others return in kind. The exception in traffic are the idiots that race down a lane that's coming to an end and then expect to dart into your lane. I make darn sure they don't get in front of me.

 

 

Yup, same here.

[Squeegiebo]

Wrong. This is why people think it's okay to be an a$$ and rude to other people. There is a difference between:

1. "Excuse me, you didn't say thank you and I think that is rude."

 

and

 

2. "B1tch, get yer fat a$$ over here and say thank you."

That is why I always day "You are welcome" to them. If they forgot they quickly say they are sorry and say thank you, if they are rude, they just keep going or say something smart.

let people treat you that way is sickening and just helps fuel the problem in this world.

 

While there is a difference, it's only in the degree of rudeness.

 

Good manners is to be polite and considerate because it's the right thing to do regardless of whether it is acknowledged.

[max]

I always hold doors for others. Even if I am holding the baby I still will hold the door. It is something that I have always done and probably always will. Even at work when out on a smoke break (I know I need to quit smoking) in the winter I will give up my coat to any females that are out there and need it.

[dmarc117]

Duh. I said I hold doors for handicapped people.

 

 

woohoo!!!

[cliaz]

While there is a difference, it's only in the degree of rudeness.

 

Good manners is to be polite and considerate because it's the right thing to do regardless of whether it is acknowledged.

 

 

I missed you. I'm so happy you are back.

[joethin]

What's up guys. Noob here. Just putting my with the risk of some noob attack.

 

I do try to always have manners, my mom and both granmas were teachers (unless you were in the same situation, you really don't know what its like to feel like you're i school 24/7... love them all and have much to be greatful for... but staying with the subject).

 

Still, I do little paybacks... you know when you're holding the door you pretty much know if the person is going to be greatful or not (little prejudice???), so I fake letting go of the door just to get their attention... I get a really good kick out of it.

 

But for the most part, I do the right thing without expecting anything in return. That way I keep others from ruining my good mood.

[tbimm]

What's up guys. Noob here. Just putting my with the risk of some noob attack.

 

I do try to always have manners, my mom and both granmas were teachers (unless you were in the same situation, you really don't know what its like to feel like you're i school 24/7... love them all and have much to be greatful for... but staying with the subject).

 

Still, I do little paybacks... you know when you're holding the door you pretty much know if the person is going to be greatful or not (little prejudice???), so I fake letting go of the door just to get their attention... I get a really good kick out of it.

 

But for the most part, I do the right thing without expecting anything in return. That way I keep others from ruining my good mood.

 

Gotta love your sigline!

[Perchoutofwater]

I'm seeing a softer side of Squeegiebo.

 

 

Stop looking at her butt. Pig!

Edited July 9, 2006 by Perchoutofwater

[SuperBalla]

I say yes sir and mam, I hold doors open for anybody, I always open the car door for my wife, and I stand up when a lady gets up from the table...(only nice restaurants). Respect gets you places in life.

[Avernus]

when someone holds the door for me...I say "thank you"....

 

but I only hold the door for someone if they are a certain number of paces behind me...

 

if they are far enough to where I would have to hold the door for more than 3 or 4 seconds...they will likely have to open it or catch it before it closes....because I am long gone..

[cre8tiff]

I alway open the door, and hold it open for anyone within a few paces from the door. I usualy get up when I'm seated and someone else sits down male or female. If it's a female it is a respect thing if it is a male it is to shake his hand. The few exceptions are with people I work with on a daily basis, family, and very good friends. I don't do it for others, I do it for my own self respect.

 

 

+1 Holy crap on a biscuit, I share a value with Perch! I think that is a sign of the Apocalypse or something...

[DKF]

I wasn't brought up in the South although I live south of the Mason-Dixon line now. Still, I was brung up to say "Please," "Thank You," "Sir," "Ma'am" and do ch!t like holding doors, giving up my seat to a lady/older person, etc.

 

In the past, most of the time, when I conduct myself in such a manner, I done git ignored, treated like a doggone doorman, etc. Very few peeps says "Thank youze" to me.

 

So's I sez "F()ck 'em." Most of the time I don't do the "gentlemanly" thing unless it's a lady with a stroller, really old, blind person, etc. Jist last week, as I was walking down the street, a blind lady with a cane was about ready to crash into a tree and I grabbed her arm, warned her, and redirected her. She said "EXCUSE ME" like I was raping her so I apologized, disengaged, and left her on her way. I think her reaction was justified although I'm not gonna help the next blindie I encounter unless they actually hurt themselves. Chicken or egg?

 

Do those of you who adhere to Old World chivalry ever get pissed when you encounter this?

 

If I cease to open a door or extend other courtesies because of other humans' rudeness and ignorance, I will then become one of them.