loaf Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I've got a wedding to attend tonight. Friday because it's cheaper. I don't even know why my family was invited, this is a cousin-in-law to my Brother...anyways what is an appropriate monetary gift considering: 1. I'm not related 2. Not really even a friend 3. No alcohol 4. No dinner (just appetizers) we were told not to come hungry 5. going stag I'm thinking $40 but people in my office were saying $25. What do you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aqualung Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I'm thinking $40 but people in my office were saying $25. What do you think? I'm with the people in your office. 3. No alcohol And this is just plain BS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geeteebee Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I've got a wedding to attend tonight. Friday because it's cheaper. I don't even know why my family was invited, this is a cousin-in-law to my Brother...anyways what is an appropriate monetary gift considering: 1. I'm not related 2. Not really even a friend 3. No alcohol 4. No dinner (just appetizers) we were told not to come hungry 5. going stag I'm thinking $40 but people in my office were saying $25. What do you think? Are you ever in your life going to see these people again? Do you care what they think of you? Is the $15 going to make any difference in their lives? If the answer to all of these is no, then go for the $25. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yukon Cornelius Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 if no boose... 10 bucks should do it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Hmmm. Seems like folk are fishing for gifts (not related, not friends, no alcohol, no dinner) I don't believe I am saying this, but $25 sounds reasonable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piranha Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Sorry I regret to inform you that I am unable to attend your wedding due to a previous engagement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loaf Posted July 14, 2006 Author Share Posted July 14, 2006 I will see them again. This aunt-in-law to my brother shows up here and there and we get invited out to her house (which is a brutal one hour tripe each way). So it's not like I don't ever see them or won't ever see them again. I guess it just depends on how much I want to give. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelBunz Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 (edited) The actual rule of thumb for wedding gifts is that the couple hopes to get about what they shelled out per person at the reception. So....huge, fancy sitdown catered affair....bigger, more expensive gift. This is a general rule....not a hard and fast one. Obviously....your relationship with the couple increases or decreases your gift choice. So....given the fact that they've done nothing more than provide a "gathering place" after the nuptuals with some finger food....$25 seems about right. Edited July 14, 2006 by SteelBunz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loaf Posted July 14, 2006 Author Share Posted July 14, 2006 Here's what I just got back from a friend of mine For the wedding, still give $100. It is only appropriate unless you want to slide into an art gallery or Saks Fifth avenue and pick up a nice picture frame or small peice of Art for $50-$75. I would hit Saks and pick up a frame or Vase. Have it wrapped nice, flirt with the lady at the counter and show up at the wedding looking like a baller, with the nice bag. All the single ladies would think you have class, taste, and not afraid to open the wallet when you really didn't. Keep your head up tonight, dress nice and shave the back of your neck. I think that's excessive. And I will shave the back of my neck as well as trim the sideburns. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dutch Oven Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I think I'd take a dump in a bag and hand it to the happy couple if I had to attend that POS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puddy Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 The actual rule of thumb for wedding gifts is that the couple hopes to get about what they shelled out per person at the reception. So....huge, fancy sitdown catered affair....bigger, more expensive gift. This is a general rule....not a hard and fast one. Obviously....your relationship with the couple increases or decreases your gift choice. So....given the fact that they've done nothing more than provide a "gathering place" after the nuptuals with some finger food....$25 seems about right. This will be the most boring reception you ever attend. Hopefully the cheapskates getting married also skimped on the entertainment and didn't hire a DJ. I deejay'd a couple of weddings in my time where they didn't serve any alcohol. Terrible, terrible, terrible... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clubfoothead Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 You get spice rack from Target. You already own a spice rack, you get spice rack from Target. If I am at your wedding and you are expecting a gift, you get spice rack from Target. If you invited me to your wedding in 1988 you got spice rack from Target. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dutch Oven Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I deejay'd a couple of weddings in my time where they didn't serve any alcohol. Terrible, terrible, terrible... Sober white folk can't really get down properly to Rob Base and DJ E-Z Rock........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefjay Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 (edited) Sorry I regret to inform you that I am unable to attend your wedding due to a previous engagement. No brainer here. $100 isn't even a possibility. $25 max if you do go. My cousin gave us 4 instant lottery tickets, I kid you not. He was about 24 at the time too. Then again you could meet Mrs. Loaf there. Edited July 14, 2006 by chiefjay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 $25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 (edited) The actual rule of thumb for wedding gifts is that the couple hopes to get about what they shelled out per person at the reception. So....huge, fancy sitdown catered affair....bigger, more expensive gift. This is a general rule....not a hard and fast one. Some people never gave us gifts or the gift amounted to $20. At $90 a person, I'd say I'm a little PO'd at those people. Even worse than that, 5 couples RSVP'd but didn't show up. Edited July 14, 2006 by twiley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dutch Oven Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 My cousin gave us 4 instant lottery tickets, I kid you not. He was about 24 at the time too. Awesomeness right there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T_bone65 Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 $25 is more then enough for this situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geeteebee Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 My cousin gave us 4 instant lottery tickets, I kid you not. He was about 24 at the time too. did he already scratch them off? just to save you the hassle of doing so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geeteebee Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 You get spice rack from Target. You already own a spice rack, you get spice rack from Target. If I am at your wedding and you are expecting a gift, you get spice rack from Target. If you invited me to your wedding in 1988 you got spice rack from Target. I think you came to my wedding. three or four times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexgaddis Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Sorry I regret to inform you that I am unable to attend your wedding due to a previous engagement. +1 or a Mcdonalds give certificate for $5 seriously, $25 is plenty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hardrocker Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 You know what...there is no wrong answer. You don't owe the people anything. If you go give what you want to give. I kinda liked the nice frame from Sak's or something. But I dont think you would have asked the question if you felt like giving $75-$100. Go if you want, send your regards if you don't. Give em $25 or give em $100. Whatever you feel like doing here should be fine. But definately shave the back of your neck!!! Have fun..stop sweatin the small stuff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perchoutofwater Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Go if you feel like going, don't if you don't. It can always be explained later that something came up. Give what you feel like giving. Now if the bride has a lot of hot friends, I'd go, fork out the extra cash, and try to get lucky. Think of yourself as Vince Vaughn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 The actual rule of thumb for wedding gifts is that the couple hopes to get about what they shelled out per person at the reception. yeah, if only 25 bucks here is more than enough, loaf. but i like your friend's idea of getting it wrapped and bagged so it looks nice. and shaving your neck. if the reception sux maybe at least you get laid or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 hey it may be short notice, but i've got a pearlized maple leaf serving dish thingy i'd sell you for 25 bucks. or some ridiculous candle holders. or a huge ugly crystal vase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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