KevinL Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Wife and I are expecting in September. For those that haven't been keeping track, she has 3, I have 3 (from previous marriages) and we have 1 together. This will be #8. The past few weeks ultrasound findings have not been good. Baby is smaller than expected and there is not nearly enough amniotic fluid as expected. Original doctor and new specialist doctor both feel this is due to Multicystic Displastic Kidney on both kidneys, which leads to lungs not developing. Bottom line, the expectation is that the baby is fine in the mother, but once delivered, will die very shortly (minutes or hours). Pray for us, besides dealing with this we need to try to find a way for 7 kids (ages 4-17) to prepare for and understand this. Multicystic Dysplastic Kidney Sometimes MCDK will be seen on both sides (1 in 10,000 live births) or will be seen on one side with no kidney on the other side. Both of these conditions are lethal. Lethal means that the baby cannot survive after birth because there is no treatment to fix the problem. One of the biggest reasons that these conditions are lethal is because the urine made by the kidneys adds to the amniotic fluid. If there are no kidneys or the kidneys do not function and make amniotic fluid, the baby's lungs will not develop. The amniotic fluid is needed for the baby's lungs to grow and mature. However, as long as one kidney is working there should be an enough amniotic fluid for the lungs to grow and mature. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylive5 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Very sorry to hear this Kevin. Prayers for your family on the way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexgaddis Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Sorry to hear that...prayers sent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perchoutofwater Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Kevin, I hope that the doctors are wrong. Prayer sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 On the way man. Keep your chin up, our doctors were extremely about potential problems with our baby, even after spending a lot of money on subsequent tests. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 sent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T_bone65 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 You got them Kevin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hugh 0ne Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Very sorry to hear this Kevin, thoughts and prayers to you, your wife, and your entire family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rajncajn Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Very sorry to hear that Kevin. My thoughts & prayers are with your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Forgot to add. In regard to breaking the news to the kids, I think I would just be absolutely honest with them and pretty much lay it out the way you did here. Kids can smell BS a mile away. Not to belittle the grief of your kids, but your kids will probably take this a lot easier than you and your wife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuke'em ttg Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Prayer added Kevin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peepinmofo Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Sorry to hear that man... Keep thinking positive. Whatever happens, just know that most things happen for a reason. Often times we never find out the reasons, but they are there. Best of luck to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 my prayers are very much with your family, kevin. Forgot to add. In regard to breaking the news to the kids, I think I would just be absolutely honest with them and pretty much lay it out the way you did here. Kids can smell BS a mile away. Not to belittle the grief of your kids, but your kids will probably take this a lot easier than you and your wife. agreed. bring it all in ASAP, in my opinion. you guys don't need the stress of trying to figure out what to tell who when. and whatever the outcome, it just might bring your family that much closer together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rajncajn Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Forgot to add. In regard to breaking the news to the kids, I think I would just be absolutely honest with them and pretty much lay it out the way you did here. Kids can smell BS a mile away. Not to belittle the grief of your kids, but your kids will probably take this a lot easier than you and your wife. I'd add that you despite the affect this has on you & your wife to be sure to realize the affect this will have on your kids through you. Taking comfort in holding together as a complete family can go a long way in helping with this vs closing off from them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Sorry to hear this Kevin. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fatman Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 So sorry to hear this Kevin...positive vibes to you and the family... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocknrobn26 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Very sorry to hear this Kevin. Prayers and best wishes coming. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tazinib1 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 oh man. Keep yours and more importantly, the wife's spirits up if you can. Thoughts and prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaP'N GRuNGe Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Prayers to you and your family Kevin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 I'll you you all in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmarc117 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 sent. stay strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_am_the_swammi Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Prayers and good thoughts to you, the wife, your kids...and most of all, your little one. Be thankful you have a large family, and you can all support each other during trying times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BiggieFries Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Sorry to hear this Kevin. You and your family will be in my thoughts. +1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricrelish Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Positive energy to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wolf Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Kevin, I hope that the doctors are wrong. Prayer sent. +1. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, Kevin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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