buddahj Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 A friend of mine got married a month or so ago. They didn't have a wedding. So a few weeks ago they send out an invite for a party they are throwing to celebrate their "blessed union". At the bottom of the invite it states where they are registered at. I'm assuming so we can all buy them a present. To me, this just seems tacky. I'm just curious what someone else thinks. Thanks in advance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Where is the party ? A formal banquet place, a Restaurant ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clubfoothead Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Doesn't seem any different than a wedding invitation with a gift registry on it to me. Â Get them a spice rack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I'd need to know more to give an opinion. I am not a fan of regestries, but my first thought is that you can't knock a young couple for trying. Â Are they big ticket items? Are they the type to care if you don't take their hint? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Savage Beatings Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Got married but didn't have a wedding? I'm not sure I understand that... do you just mean that they had a private wedding with just them, a witness and a JOTP? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeeR Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 A friend of mine got married a month or so ago. They didn't have a wedding. Â Meaning what, they're gay? Â Yeah IMO that's tacky and a pretty obvious attempt to loot their "friends." No wedding, why expect a wedding present? Get them a "blessed union present." How about the ACLU Handbook? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yukon Cornelius Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 been to many that did not have a " wedding" that cost thousands but had a party that was a blast. Not tacky... are they registered at target , get them a bag of dog food. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
detlef Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I'm having a really hard time seeing how this is really all that different from a wedding invitation. Â In both cases you go to a party that celebrates a union between two people. In both cases, a present is typically expected. Â BeeR, do you feel cheated because you weren't there when they said, "I do"? Honestly? Would you be cool with it if they yelled that at their party of "blessed union"? Â I'm really trying to figure out what the sticking point here is. Â BTW, there are far more shameless loot-grabs in the name of marriage. The worst is the trifecta of engagement party/couple's(or bridal) shower/wedding with gifts at each. If they don't get you in the wash... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuke'em ttg Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 been to many that did not have a " wedding" that cost thousands but had a party that was a blast. Not tacky... are they registered at target , get them a bag of dog food. Â Yep, ours was a 600 taco cookout, my Dad bought the food and FIL bought the Beer plus i didn't have to do thank-yous good times Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rajncajn Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 been to many that did not have a " wedding" that cost thousands but had a party that was a blast. Not tacky... are they registered at target , get them a bag of dog food. Yup... Just because someone doesn't get married in a traditional wedding doesn't mean they shouldn't reap the same benefits as all the other couples. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuke'em ttg Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Yup... Just because someone doesn't get married in a traditional wedding doesn't mean they shouldn't reap the same benefits as all the other couples. Â I didn't want any gifts or tacos from my friends, it was about us gettin married, not all the bullchit that goes with it, that's tacky. Islands in the stream, that is what were are motorboatin baby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Slightly tacky, but I can understand not wanting the big production. It's a lot of expense for what is basically a fancy dinner. I wanted to just go to the JOTP and take a 2-week honeymoon but my wife wasn't having it. In retrospect I'm glad we had an actual wedding though, it was really great. Â I would buy them a gift, same as if it was a regular wedding. To me the wedding gift is something you give to congratulate the couple regardless of the venue or if I was invited to the ceremony. If the party is just something casual at someone's house, I would not give cash in addition to the gift, as would be expected for an actual reception. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulzale Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I think it is tacky to put registry information on or in with a wedding invitation. So, for a celebration party, very tacky. I mean both cases screams hey give me crap. Every adult knows to show up with a gift of some sort, so pick up the phone and call to inquire about the registry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chief Dick Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Not tacky. If I'm invited to a wedding, whether it's the ceremony or party or both, I expect to bring them a gift. So the registry note at the bottom is appreciated because I don't have to make a phone call or ask around or try to guess what to get them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylive5 Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 It's just you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) been to many that did not have a " wedding" that cost thousands but had a party that was a blast. Not tacky... are they registered at target , get them a bag of dog food. +1 Â ETA: Who wants to go to a boring ceremony anyway. Â Buy them a $25 gift and load up on free booze and food. However, if it's cash bar - then it's tacky. Edited October 6, 2011 by twiley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
detlef Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I think it is tacky to put registry information on or in with a wedding invitation. So, for a celebration party, very tacky. I mean both cases screams hey give me crap. Every adult knows to show up with a gift of some sort, so pick up the phone and call to inquire about the registry. Why do we have to be insulated from the simple realities of our day to day endeavors? Â If you're going to a wedding (or blissful union celebration), you're supposed to bring a gift. Everyone knows this. So, it's tacky for them to make it easy for you? Â There are other ways people cry "tacky" about things like this and it amazes me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clubfoothead Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 +1Â ETA: Who wants to go to a boring ceremony anyway. Â Buy them a $25 gift and load up on free booze and food. However, if it's cash bar - then it's tacky. Â You can usually get a pretty decent spice rack at Target for $20.00 - $30.00. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 Not tacky. If I'm invited to a wedding, whether it's the ceremony or party or both, I expect to bring them a gift. So the registry note at the bottom is appreciated because I don't have to make a phone call or ask around or try to guess what to get them. +1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Irish Doggy Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I have no problem with this. And candlesticks always make a nice gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrTed46 Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 not tacky at all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 of course it is tacky  are they inviting you to celebrate their blessed union or are they having a party to get presents? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_am_the_swammi Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I'm kinda torn on this one. Â I have no problem with them throwing an after-the-fact party to celebrate their vows. If it was a good friend of mine who didn't want or couldn't afford an elaborate production, I wouldn't feel slighted in the least. And I definitely would bring them a gift to show my support....they wouldn't have to ask. Â And thats the rub....by putting on the invite the store where they are registered (while helpful), it can come off looking like they are asking (or expecting) a gift of some sort. if you invited me to your party, I am likely a friend, co-worker, or family. Of course I am going to bring a gift. But by you actually putting on the invite, you are either (1) telling me what you want, which is presumptuous or (2) assuming I have no tact and would actually have shown up without a present for the new couple. Â JMO, but I'd have left it off the invite, with the full knowledge most people are likely going to give me cash (which I would rather have anyway so I could buy my own stuff) or a tasteful gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puddy Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 of course it is tacky are they inviting you to celebrate their blessed union or are they having a party to get presents? I think it's tacky to make jokes about a dead guy while his body is still warm.   Apparently making fun of a dead horse is worse....RIP Barbaro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I think it's tacky to make jokes about a dead guy while his body is still warm. it's ok, his body might still be warm, but his heart has been ice-cold for decades Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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