Scooby Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 My 2 older sisters have begun an all out war and I am caught in the middle; Sister A got really angry at Sister B for having to leave a labor day family gathering a day early early to pick up a new dog and travel back to her home in NOLA to beat the labor day travel rush. Sister A is also mad at sister B for deciding to take on an overseas travelling ministry with her husband's seminary, which would require the rest of the family to take care of their 5 kids up to 30 days/yr...My parents have already agreed to take care of the kids, problem solved. The keep emailing one another, calling me everyday to tell me their side of the story, asking for support/advice from me. Sister A is calling sister B self-righteous & self-centered, both are bringing up old beefs from the past and it is causing a lot of stress for me too, I love them and just try to listen and encourage them to agree to disagree and move on. I'm not sure what to do from here, so any advice very much appreciated. On a positive note, I had the pleasure of meeting Bier, Atm, Big Country, GTS, Montster, Kokid, Bushwhacked, (hope I didnt leave anyone out;). I cant say enough about this group of guys, intelligent, gracious, humorous, with big hearts and sharp minds for fantasy football. Great times and memories and I hope to see them again next yr. Take care all:))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) I'm betting you had fun with most of that group (except Bushie, of course) More importantly, stay out of it. Tell 'em that they need to work their issues out with one another and not try and fight a proxy war through you. If they want to call and see how yer doing, great... If they want to call and complain about the other sister, don't bother calling. ETA: Look at it this way... You're only "caught in the middle" if you allow yerself to be there. Edited September 10, 2012 by SEC=UGA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 I'm betting you had fun with most of that group (except Bushie, of course) More importantly, stay out of it. Tell 'em that they need to work their issues out with one another and not try and fight a proxy war through you. If they want to call and see how yer doing, great... If they want to call and complain about the other sister, don't bother calling. ETA: Look at it this way... You're only "caught in the middle" if you allow yerself to be there. Yup. My mom talks about my drunk uncle every time I talk to her. He calls her in the evening completely blitzed and proceeds to blather incoherently for an hour, and often doesn't remember the conversations the next day. Well guess what, when my phone rings in the PM hours and I see it's him, I don't answer. Problem solved. Some people seem to revel in gossip and drama, yet pretend like they're really put out. It's kind of transparent when the interactions are so avoidable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
polksalet Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Your family needs some real issues to be concerned with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnlava Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Tell them that you love them both and that your hanging up now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Sitcom solution: Tell them each that the other really wants to apologize. Tell one to call the other. Works every time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Sister A is right Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 I've got two sisters...I learned by the age of 4 to stay the hell out of their BS. As for the group of guys you met...they do have the softest hands you'll ever meet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SheikYerbuti Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 I'd weigh in but I'm too insulted that you remembered meeting that fairy Bier but not me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby Posted September 10, 2012 Author Share Posted September 10, 2012 oh dang!!! I forgot Sheik and his sweet wife:))) see, getting in at 4am yesterday will mess with your memory;)) american airlines and their flight delays... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeorgeSteele Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Its lack of discipline by your parents your whole lives. My sister is now in her early 20's but if she misbehaves our step father has no problem putting her over his knee and spanking her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaptainHook Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 if they fight, we're gonna need pics Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chavez Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 More importantly, stay out of it. Tell 'em that they need to work their issues out with one another and not try and fight a proxy war through you. If they want to call and see how yer doing, great... If they want to call and complain about the other sister, don't bother calling. Look at it this way... You're only "caught in the middle" if you allow yerself to be there. GREAT advice here. Scooby - "Hello, Sister A! I'm so glad you called, I love you and have been DYING to talk to you!" Sister A - "Did you hear what Sister B did?" Scooby - "Talk to you about ANYTHING but Sister B. Gotta go!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuke'em ttg Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 hiss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
detlef Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Your family needs some real issues to be concerned with. Pretty much, though obviously not actually wishing that on them (which I'm certain polk isn't either). You need to stay out of this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rajncajn Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Yep, tell them both that they can be mad at you if they want, but you're not getting in the middle of their fight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bier Meister Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 I'm betting you had fun with most of that group (except Bushie, of course) More importantly, stay out of it. Tell 'em that they need to work their issues out with one another and not try and fight a proxy war through you. If they want to call and see how yer doing, great... If they want to call and complain about the other sister, don't bother calling. ETA: Look at it this way... You're only "caught in the middle" if you allow yerself to be there. good posting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clubfoothead Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Sister A is right Why have 5 kids to leave them with relatives to go overseas to take care of other peoples' kids? Sister A is right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Just going to throw this out there -- would scissoring help? It certainly couldn't hurt, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Why have 5 kids to leave them with relatives to go overseas to take care of other peoples' kids? Sister A is right. Hey Club. You dont have to convince me man.,I have always been "Team Sister A" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cre8tiff Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 #firstworldproblems Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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