Big Country Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 I've got a coworker that is looking for a good response to a situation at work. She is married. She had someone that she works with, I am guessing fairly regularly though she won't tell me who it is, that at some point in the last few weeks made a passing comment after a meeting about getting drinks. She ignored it and thought not much of it. The other day, he asked her if she wanted to go to Starbucks and get a drink. She is looking for some sort of response to basically say, not interested, without causing an incident, not that there is necessarily one imminent. I told her that the next time, assuming there is one, that he asks her for a drink or something, to say something like, hold on, I'm finishing up our sexual harassment training class. So, any serious and/or witty responses that I can pass on to her for consideration. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pope Flick Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 Frankly, I'd keep it simple, especially if it's a corporate environment: "I don't think it's appropriate, and wouldn't even if I wasn't married." If that doesn't work then I'd use the HR wording. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
polksalet Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 My standard, "Cool baby but I have to be upfront. I'm HIV+." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursa Majoris Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 "No, F off you scumbag" usually works quite well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Footballjoe Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 "Is my husband invited?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 What's the matter with her just saying "no thank you"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpwallace49 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 "Can you bring your own ball gag?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riffraff Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 "Is my husband invited?" This. Or just say no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buddahj Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 "I don't think it's appropriate, and wouldn't even if I wasn't married." "Is my husband invited?" What's the matter with her just saying "no thank you"? All good ideas. If these don't work...then flick him in the nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furd Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) What's the matter with her just saying "no thank you"? This. I really don't see any benefit from cracking wise. Edited March 20, 2010 by Furd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Irish Doggy Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Its hard to tell the tone of the situation on the internets. However, I know plenty of people who get together after work or take a Starbucks break during work. Its not necessarily an adulterous situation, so I'd be careful on this. If there is any doubt, I'd seek a little clarification. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SayItAintSoJoe Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Its hard to tell the tone of the situation on the internets. However, I know plenty of people who get together after work or take a Starbucks break during work. Its not necessarily an adulterous situation, so I'd be careful on this. If there is any doubt, I'd seek a little clarification. I agree. Plus some women interpret everything as a pass. So far from what I've read here I haven't seen anything that I would consider a blatant pass. I guess if it makes her feel uncomfortable tell her to just keep bringing up her husband a lot and he should get the hint. If he doesn't then she can go to a plan "B". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caveman_Nick Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 What's the matter with her just saying "no thank you"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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