I'm trying to decide...

[Jackass]

Excellent point. At your age, most people are looking for the person they want to settle down with, not someone to 'have fun with'. If after this much time you aren't sure, then it's probably time to cut her loose. If she's ready for marriage, it's not fair to string her along if you aren't ready too.

 

Interestingly, she seems to think you're the one because she's sticking around...do you have trouble making decisions in other facets of your life?

 

 

well, I would probably say yes to that question.

 

And to answer other questions.

 

we don't live together

 

She's about a C cup although probably a small C

[Perchoutofwater]

With out a picture of her showing her tits, it is impossible for us tell you what to do. It would be like you going to the fantasy football advice board, and asking us if you should trade player x for player y without telling us who else you have on your line up, and what your scoring system is.

 

So, with the info you've given us, I'd have to say pick the one you can score with most.

Edited April 6, 2007 by Perchoutofwater

[yo mama]

Can I have her phone number after you're done?

 

He said the woman wants to get married; not chlorophormed at a Star Trek convention.

[Bill Swerski]

If you're still unsure after two years, she's not the one. Better to go your separate ways now than to go through a nasty divorce five years down the road.

[irish]

Can I have her phone number after you're done?

 

 

Damn!!! My gaydar was going nuts, I had you pegged for a Homo.

[Joessfl]

If she's not the one then end it. Plain and simple.

 

 

"Stop shopliftin' the pootie"

[irish]

With out a picture of her showing her tits, it is impossible for us tell you what to do. It would be like you going to the fantasy football advice board, and asking us if you should trade player x for player y without telling us who else you have on your line up, and what your scoring system is.

 

So, with the info you've given us, I'd have to say pick the one you can score with most.

 

 

 

Thanks Grits...I mean Perch.

[Front Row]

He said the woman wants to get married; not chlorophormed at a Star Trek convention.

 

[Pope Flick]

I don't think this is the place to get this kind of advice.

 

 

 

My first thought was similar - if you need to ask here, you already know the answer.

[TimC]

He said the woman wants to get married; not chlorophormed at a Star Trek convention.

 

 

Wait. There's a difference? You must not be from the South.

[yo mama]

Wait. There's a difference? You must not be from the South.

 

Dude, I'm from California. Proposing to a woman out here involves a sworn affidavidit that God is a "her," illegal aliens have "rights," and that the phrase "right to bear arms" in the 2nd Amendment refers to giving hugs.

[Big Country]

Dude, I'm from California. Proposing to a woman out here involves a sworn affidavidit that God is a "her," illegal aliens have "rights," and that the phrase "right to bear arms" in the 2nd Amendment refers to giving hugs.

 

 

And that anything you earn goes to her when it is time to upgrade to the trophy model wife.

[TimC]

Dude, I'm from California. Proposing to a woman out here involves a sworn affidavidit that God is a "her," illegal aliens have "rights," and that the phrase "right to bear arms" in the 2nd Amendment refers to giving hugs.

 

 

California??? Here in Virginny, we just club 'em over the head and say "urgh married".

 

It's hard to believe we're in the same country.

[yo mama]

And that anything you earn goes to her when it is time to upgrade to the trophy model wife.

 

That part I don't mind. If it weren't for the Mrs. I'd likely still have a greasy pony tail and live off noodle raman and wholesale-priced flats of eggs.

[chiefjay]

If it doesn't work out you must show the pictures on this site, it's required after a bad breakup. We all know there are some incriminating pictures somewhere, just make sure your not included.

[wiegie]

What is the expected opportunity cost of staying with her?

 

To calculate this, you would need to solve an equation along the lines of:

 

Z = (Px*Hx - Hy) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^2 + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^3 + ... + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^n

 

where:

 

Z = the opportunity cost of staying with the current woman

Px = probability of hooking up with a "better" woman

Hx = the happiness you will get from being with a "better" woman

Hy = the happiness you get from being with current woman

d = the rate at which you discount future happiness

n = number of years you estimate are left in your life

 

If Z > 0, then you should dump your current woman. (Edit to add: I am assuming that you are risk-neutral.)

 

(In reality, the actual equation that he should solve is a little bit trickier, but for simplicity I decided to avoid the use of integral calculus and probability distributions because the basic idea I am trying to get across is the same.)

 

I've read through the whole thread and the advice above is seriously the best advice that has been given here.

[Bill Swerski]

I knew when I met my wife, she was the one. I know its said all the time, but in my case it was reality.

 

I think that's probably the best piece of advice I've seen here.

[wiegie]

I think that's probably the best piece of advice I've seen here.

 

Well, if the question were, "I think I have met the 'one' for me, should I do something about it?" then anwering "yes" would be good advice.

 

But that isn't the situation that Jackass is in right now. I don't really think that there is "one" person out there for everyone. I think there are a whole number of people with whom a person could reasonably have a relationship, with varying levels of happiness. Now pretty much by definition, there is "one" person out there who would maximize a person's level of happiness, but it's not clear that you will ever meet that person, nor is it clear that you would instantly recognize that person if you met her. Hence my expected opportunity costs equation.

 

(Of course, in my own case, I was smitten the moment I first saw my wife, and when I got back to the hotel room on the day that I met her, I called my sister from Paris and asked her what she thought about the idea of having a Swiss sister-in-law.)

Edited April 6, 2007 by wiegie

[Bill Swerski]

Well, if the question were, "I think I have met the 'one' for me, should I do something about it?" then anwering "yes" would be good advice.

 

But that isn't the situation that Jackass is in right now. I don't really think that there is "one" person out there for everyone. I think there are a whole number of people with whom a person could reasonably have a relationship, with varying levels of happiness. Now pretty much be definition, there is "one" person out there who would maximize a person's level of happiness, but it's not clear that you will ever meet that person, nor is it clear that you would instantly recognize that person if you met her. Hence my expected opportunity costs equation.

 

(Of course, in my own case, I was smitten the moment I first saw my wife, and when I got back to the hotel room on the day that I met her, I called my sister from Paris and asked her what she thought about the idea of having a Swiss sister-in-law.)

 

Putting some of my religious beliefs aside, I basically agree. However, my point was that if he's not sure after two years of dating, she's either not the person for him or he's not ready for marriage yet. Drawing on my experience and the experieces of others I know, there's usually little doubt in one's mind when the woman and timing are right.

[Chargerz]

I hadn't thought about the possibility that I might be a homo. i do enjoy gladiator movies.

 

Very good!