Square Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Saw this and thought it was kind of interesting.... Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed By Bonnie Ware(who worked for years nursing the dying) 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didn't work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have sillyness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 6. I wish I had nailed that chick who used to cut my hair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furd Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I've been told that when I die, on my deathbed, I will receive total consciousness. So I got that goin' for me, which is nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DMD Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 All I know is that when I die, I hope they say "he was dead before he hit the ground". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Savage Beatings Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 7. I still can't believe that I drafted * in the first round of my Dynasty league! *fill in name of bust here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Cameltosis Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 (edited) 7. I still can't believe that I drafted * in the first round of my Dynasty league! *fill in name of bust here William Green ETA: ZING! Edited May 31, 2011 by Cameltosis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seattle LawDawg Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I wish I wouldn't have bought this deathbed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I wish I wouldn't have bought this deathbed. I tried unsuccessfully not to laugh at this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted May 31, 2011 Author Share Posted May 31, 2011 All I know is that when I die, I hope they say "he was dead before he hit the ground". When I die, I want to go peacefully in my sleep like my Grandpa did. Not screaming in terror like the people riding in the back seat of his car at the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I wish I wouldn't have bought this deathbed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 When I die, I want to go peacefully in my sleep like my Grandpa did. Not screaming in terror like the people riding in the back seat of his car at the time. Former RR26 sigline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seattle LawDawg Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Can't take credit. Borrowed the idea from Michael Scott's farewell. Funny stuff: "They say on your deathbed you never wish you spent more time at the office....but I will...gotta be a lot better than a deathbed. Actually, I don't understand deathbeds. I mean, who would buy that?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geeteebee Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I hope I die before I get old. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
satelliteoflovegm Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 just goes to show most people never quit lying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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