Passes away?

[Furd]

What's the deal with this "passes away" thing?

 

When somebody dies, they die. They're dead. D-E-A-D.

 

[whomper]

It is just a nicer way of saying it.

[rajncajn]

It doesn't have the finality that saying "dead" does. It gives the person(s) who are grieving a feeling that the deceased is somehow still with them in some form.

[i_am_the_swammi]

It is just a nicer way of saying it.

 

+1

 

its all about respect (for the person that died) and class (of the person stating it)

[Big John]

And for the faithful, it also means that there is hope that they passed on to the afterlife.

[SheikYerbuti]

I never minded the term "passed away". The one I don't like is "expired". Makes a person sound like a carton of milk or something.

[sundaynfl]

I've always disliked the term "lost." Are you still looking for him, or have you given up?

[MrTed46]

What's the deal with this "passes away" thing?

 

When somebody dies, they die. They're dead. D-E-A-D.

 

 

I agree here. But the "nice" think to say is passes away. A lot of religious people feel they are passing to the next life.

 

I say you are worm meal.

[Czarina]

The thing that irks me about it is using the present tense, as if the person is still doing whatever was said. You don't keep dying, you die. "X died today" is much better than "X dies."

[jaxfactor]

And for the faithful, it also means that there is hope that they passed on to the afterlife.

 

Thanks, BJ. Furd and co. can stick it up their asses if they don't like it.

[Azazello1313]

I don't think it really has much to do with any religious outlook ("passed on" would be a different story)...I think it just avoids some of the harshness and finality. seems like an awfully silly thing to whine about; dealing with death is probably harsh and final enough as it is without people browbeating you about trying to soften the blow in so trivial a way as how you refer to it.

[darin3]

+1

 

its all about respect (for the person that died) and class (of the person stating it)

Some people obviously have none and none.

 

'Nuff said.

[The Irish Doggy]

Times are harsh these days in Michigan.

[Furd]

To me, it just sounds a little light for a man to be saying it, particularly to another man and particularly about someone he doesn't know.

 

I didn't mean to offend so many delicate sensibilities. A good cry might help with that. But you already knew that.

[i_am_the_swammi]

To me

 

This about says it all.

 

the fact the you are totally alone in your thinking warrants a long look in the mirror....but you already knew that.

[Kid Cid]

Meh. Everyone deals with death in their own way. Some folks want to slowly ease their way into the pool of cold water, letting it inch its way up past their nads, feeling every little bit or torment that the moment can bring while others prefer to dive in face first and take the full force of the blow all at once.

[darin3]

To me, it just sounds a little light for a man to be saying it, particularly to another man and particularly about someone he doesn't know.

 

I didn't mean to offend so many delicate sensibilities. A good cry might help with that. But you already knew that.

Maybe your ghey alter ego will come along and give you a monologue on class.

[Jimmy Neutron]

I do think it's a matter of belief system. Some folks don't believe death in this life us the end, so a phrase like passed away or passed on is more fitting. To others, when you're dead, you're dead - there's just no getting around it.

[i_am_the_swammi]

The Free Dictionary

 

or perhaps just the fact that "pass away" means to die:

 

 

Phrasal Verbs:

pass away

1. To pass out of existence; end.

2. To die.

[Hugh 0ne]

To me, it just sounds a little light for a man to be saying it, particularly to another man and particularly about someone he doesn't know.

 

I didn't mean to offend so many delicate sensibilities. A good cry might help with that. But you already knew that.

 

 

:meow:

[Azazello1313]

To me, it just sounds a little light for a man to be saying it, particularly to another man and particularly about someone he doesn't know.

 

I didn't mean to offend so many delicate sensibilities. A good cry might help with that. But you already knew that.

 

oh I see, it's an issue of manliness now. ok, howie long. well, be careful you don't step in any of that bullmanure you're wading around in....wouldn't want to get any on your fancy $300 shoes, mr. manly man.

[peepinmofo]

Yeah... if you are a real man, you dont say "pass away". Thats only for the REALLY tough guys.

 

Me? I guess Im not tough, and you know what? Im perfectly ok with that. Ill still kick you're ass.

[The Irish Doggy]

Perhaps "He's eating worms" would be better.

 

Or maybe, "That MotherF'r? He done died."

[rajncajn]

I've never known anyone homophobic enough to be concerned with the way someone says "died."

[Czarina]

Well guys, at the risk of offending...I have to say this. We avoided using euphemisms for death in hospice. Coming to terms with the finality of death is certainly difficult to do, however, it is important. For someone who's grieving a new loss, it may indeed be especially difficult to hear the semantics bandied about. There are millions of things that are hard to see, hear, read, etc, and you're never quite sure what the thing is that might trigger memories of the loved one you're missing.