detlef Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 My guess is the guy had a good time as well. That's something to keep in mind. Planning something over the top is actually pretty fun. A day like that in the city is fun. Sure, almost any day of the year, there's things we'd rather do that take our wife shopping for gowns and such. And if we were getting our ass dragged to the mall to go shopping with her, every freaking weekend, it would get old in a hurry. But every now and then? It's fun as hell to treat your lady to this sort of thing. There's the satisfaction of taking care of her and there's the bit about dressing up and going to the city and pampering yourself doesn't exactly suck either. If you've got the means to pull something spectacular off, and you can manage to do so in a manner that won't seem like you're just copying this guy's whole deal, why not? It will be a blast for both of you. You'll have a blast. My wife really goes out of her way on my birthday, elaborate surprise parties, once she packed my luggage while I was at work, woke my ass up at the crack of dawn and drove us to the airport where we flew to Vegas to meet up with some good friends. Things like that. So, for me, the bar has been set, but fortunately not by some other guy in the neighborhood. We're going to be in Argentina this year on her birthday and I'm hooking up something special down there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hugh 0ne Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Note to self: I am Swammi's buddy and Caveman Nick are homos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 My guess is the guy had a good time as well. That's something to keep in mind. Planning something over the top is actually pretty fun. A day like that in the city is fun. Sure, almost any day of the year, there's things we'd rather do that take our wife shopping for gowns and such. And if we were getting our ass dragged to the mall to go shopping with her, every freaking weekend, it would get old in a hurry. But every now and then? It's fun as hell to treat your lady to this sort of thing. There's the satisfaction of taking care of her and there's the bit about dressing up and going to the city and pampering yourself doesn't exactly suck either. If you've got the means to pull something spectacular off, and you can manage to do so in a manner that won't seem like you're just copying this guy's whole deal, why not? It will be a blast for both of you. You'll have a blast. My wife really goes out of her way on my birthday, elaborate surprise parties, once she packed my luggage while I was at work, woke my ass up at the crack of dawn and drove us to the airport where we flew to Vegas to meet up with some good friends. Things like that. So, for me, the bar has been set, but fortunately not by some other guy in the neighborhood. We're going to be in Argentina this year on her birthday and I'm hooking up something special down there. For my 40th I kept telling my wife I didn't want a big deal made out of it but I assumed she would organize something, either with her family, my family or both. Every social engagement in the month leading up to my bday, I braced myself for a surprise party. Turns out she actually listened to me, even forgot to grab me a card that day. Bought me a card a week later, when she was at the supermarket, signed it and handed it to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 That guys plan was for a milestone birthday . Its a little different than the day to day romance that our wives are probably expecting. Im sure a nice quiet dinner and maybe a gift or flowers or something like that followed by 45 seconds of bumping uglies will do the trick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Note to self: I am Swammi's buddy and Caveman Nick are homos. Hugh is wise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_am_the_swammi Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 That guys plan was for a milestone birthday . Its a little different than the day to day romance that our wives are probably expecting. Im sure a nice quiet dinner and maybe a gift or flowers or something like that followed by 45 seconds of bumping uglies will do the trick you flatter me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 you flatter me That included getting undressed and a 30 second cuddle at the end Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 We find time in our lives for things that are a priority. For example, I want to be good at playing guitar but I don't practice that much. So, when I'm being honest with myself, I don't really care enough to be good at guitar. I love my wife and I love being a father--but for years I neglected the relationship between my wife and I. Just like you, life took over for me. And our marriage developed serious problems. Fortunately, we got through those problems and now it is clear to both of us that our relationship is a priority. We have a 'date night' almost every week. I text/sext her almost daily (and I am smooth), we cook together, etc. Our relationship is now better than it has ever been and happily, my wife shows her appreciation in a more physical manner throughout the week. Your wife is telling you, loud and clear, that she wants to feel like more of a priority in your life. You can make excuses or you can make her a priority. Unta is probably right on this one. That doesn't mean that the wife has been lighting up your scoreboard with what you want out of the relationship either, but I would say this is a pretty clear signal. That being said, any dude who thinks of hiring a photog is ghey as fck. My suggestion is to try to find something you both would enjoy and set something up. Even if it's more for her than you, is there some kind of a hobby that she is into that you could spend time doing? Just find something she likes or is interested in and brainstorm around that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caveman_Nick Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) Note to self: I am Swammi's buddy and Caveman Nick are homos. Homo that gets laid very regularly. EDIT: And is almost never in the doghouse. Edited January 26, 2012 by Caveman_Nick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 That being said, any dude who thinks of hiring a photog is ghey as fck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caveman_Nick Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 That being said, any dude who thinks of hiring a photog is ghey as fck. That seals it. I did this with a GF once. Then I got to do some toher things Then again I worked in a photo studio, so getting a photographer was no great shakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 You must round up a posse and beat the holy living sh!t outta this dude. Best f'ing advice ever. That dickwad was just showing off - no need to invite all her friends along for the trip. He could have easily arranged a time for friends to meet up while the two of them were on their weekend excursion. Better yet, after you beat the Athena out of him and he's a bloody pulp. Go back 1 min later and kick him in the nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 That seals it. I did this with a GF once. Then I got to do some toher things I got to do those things with girlfriends too, know what I did? Invited them over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 thats if you can get one of those sweet " take students abroad" gigs . yep--it's a good gig if you can get it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Unta is probably right on this one. That doesn't mean that the wife has been lighting up your scoreboard with what you want out of the relationship either, but I would say this is a pretty clear signal. That being said, any dude who thinks of hiring a photog is ghey as fck. My suggestion is to try to find something you both would enjoy and set something up. Even if it's more for her than you, is there some kind of a hobby that she is into that you could spend time doing? Just find something she likes or is interested in and brainstorm around that. I am not probably right--I am right. And if you want your wife to "light up your scoreboard," take the lead and make things happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I am not probably right--I am right. And if you want your wife to "light up your scoreboard," take the lead and make things happen. I just bought a bottle of ether and some of those bondage tie-downs for the bed. I'm gonna get me some tonight... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_am_the_swammi Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 That included getting undressed and a 30 second cuddle at the end getting undressed means it takes that much longer to get back downstairs for Sportscenter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt770 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I just bought a bottle of ether and some of those bondage tie-downs for the bed. I'm gonna get me some tonight... As I am the man of the house, my wife is subservient and lays with me when commanded. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ts Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 So the wife has been giving me some grief lately that we haven't been doing a lot as a couple.... Perhaps you could get out of chateau bow-wow by organizing a wine & scanner party for her & your neighborhood friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
detlef Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Best f'ing advice ever. That dickwad was just showing off - no need to invite all her friends along for the trip. He could have easily arranged a time for friends to meet up while the two of them were on their weekend excursion. Better yet, after you beat the Athena out of him and he's a bloody pulp. Go back 1 min later and kick him in the nuts. I agree with the inviting her friends bit. As for square's comment on the photog, I bet she dug it and that's really what's important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
millerx Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I just bought a bottle of ether and some of those bondage tie-downs for the bed. I'm gonna get me some tonight... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby's Hubby Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Perhaps you could get out of chateau bow-wow by organizing a wine & scanner party for her & your neighborhood friends. I thought that might be getting drunk and listening to the police scanner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I am not probably right--I am right. And if you want your wife to "light up your scoreboard," take the lead and make things happen. You're right, don't know what I was thinking. My bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TitansFan Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Homo that gets laid very regularly. EDIT: And is almost never in the doghouse. NTTAWWT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_am_the_swammi Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 That dickwad was just showing off - no need to invite all her friends along for the trip. He could have easily arranged a time for friends to meet up while the two of them were on their weekend excursion. Better yet, after you beat the Athena out of him and he's a bloody pulp. Go back 1 min later and kick him in the nuts. meh....the idea of the trip was a couple's weekend to celebrate her birthday....what you saw in the video was just a small portion of the weekend, and most of it was just them for the afternoon while the other couples were at the hotel or doing something else. he's not the kind of dude to show off in that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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