JoJoTheWebToedBoy Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Ten days ago my daughter was diagnosed with skin Cancer, the absolute worse kind. And it's odd because she was getting a checkup and the doctor didn't like the looks of a mole she has had on her arm all of her life. So she took a sample and and it came back positive. When I was told what type it was I started doing some research on the internet and I talked with a couple of Medical professionals and what I have found has scared me pretty badly. I have been described many times as a pretty easy going level headed guy. It drives my wife crazy that I rarely let things get to me, and I rarely get mad. So when I saw the panic in my wife's face, I made it my job to stay calm, and not let on how I was feeling. If I lose it, if I panic, the waiting is going to kill her. And it's funny, I can see my daughter doing the same thing with her husband (they live across the street from us). In fact my wife commented last night on how both of us have been as "cool as a cucumber" about it. I guess that old saying is true, The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. But the last 10 days has been the longest 10 days of my life. You try not to think about it. You try to keep busy, but in the quiet moments, when you are alone with your thoughts, your mind wanders into places it shouldn't. The waiting is just about over now. Tomorrow she goes in and they start cutting and testing to see how far it has progressed. To see how far it has spread, too see if it has started spreading into her system. It will be a long day tomorrow, maybe longer then the last 10 days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isleseeya Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 my prayers are with you and your family for sure JoJo ..staying calm is good if you can so your daughter can remain calm really wishing you all the best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Thank God the doctor found it..Prayers sent to your daughter and for you and the family..Im sure the stress and anxiety is sky high but keep being that calm influence and stay positive..I pray for the best..Take care bro.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CowboysDiehard Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Wow, JoJo. I know this kind of thing is difficult, both your daughter and your family will be in our prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puddy Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Sorry to hear that. It's very admirable to remain calm for your wifes benefit. If we can be your sounding board, that's great. I sincerely hope all turns out well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGrunt Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 My thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and your family, JoJo. I can not even begin to fathom the amount of strength and courage you and your daughter have to hold up so well during the most unexpected times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelBunz Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Steve.....keep your cool. As hard as it sounds, you can't panic until you have all the facts. And even then, panic doesn't get the job done. Could be primary (stage 0), remove it and that will be that. Sounds like her doctor was on the ball and caught it way early! It's difficult.....be informed....but stay positive! And most of all.....just be there for her and the rest of the family. But mostly for her. You and your daughter sound like me and my Dad. Cool under fire....the rocks. But speaking as a rock, I also know that we find a way to be by ourselves to have our own mini-breakdowns. It's necessary, so do it. Then go back to being the cucumber that is calm enough to actually hear what the docs are saying. Take notes....and ask questions if it makes you feel better. There's a "rock" over here in Columbus......if you need to vent. Prayers and vibes as long as you need them....but I'll be thinking about you all day tomorrow! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Hang in there in this ordeal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Czarina Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 I hope your news is good. You must be scared out of your mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timmypg Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 My prayers are with you & your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chargerz Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 My prayers are with you & your family. As are mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
max Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Prayers are on the way. I wish you, your daugter and family all the best. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alchico Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Hey steve hang in there buddy, i'm just a phone call away if ya need to vent. Prayers and Good vibes for your daughter, you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moss6 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Positve thoughts for your daughter and your family JoJo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Holy Roller Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Prayers on the way my friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocknrobn26 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Ten days ago my daughter was diagnosed with skin Cancer, the absolute worse kind. And it's odd because she was getting a checkup and the doctor didn't like the looks of a mole she has had on her arm all of her life. So she took a sample and and it came back positive. When I was told what type it was I started doing some research on the internet and I talked with a couple of Medical professionals and what I have found has scared me pretty badly. I have been described many times as a pretty easy going level headed guy. It drives my wife crazy that I rarely let things get to me, and I rarely get mad. So when I saw the panic in my wife's face, I made it my job to stay calm, and not let on how I was feeling. If I lose it, if I panic, the waiting is going to kill her. And it's funny, I can see my daughter doing the same thing with her husband (they live across the street from us). In fact my wife commented last night on how both of us have been as "cool as a cucumber" about it. I guess that old saying is true, The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. But the last 10 days has been the longest 10 days of my life. You try not to think about it. You try to keep busy, but in the quiet moments, when you are alone with your thoughts, your mind wanders into places it shouldn't. The waiting is just about over now. Tomorrow she goes in and they start cutting and testing to see how far it has progressed. To see how far it has spread, too see if it has started spreading into her system. It will be a long day tomorrow, maybe longer then the last 10 days. See below.... Steve.....keep your cool. As hard as it sounds, you can't panic until you have all the facts. And even then, panic doesn't get the job done. Could be primary (stage 0), remove it and that will be that. Sounds like her doctor was on the ball and caught it way early! It's difficult.....be informed....but stay positive! And most of all.....just be there for her and the rest of the family. But mostly for her. You and your daughter sound like me and my Dad. Cool under fire....the rocks. But speaking as a rock, I also know that we find a way to be by ourselves to have our own mini-breakdowns. It's necessary, so do it. Then go back to being the cucumber that is calm enough to actually hear what the docs are saying. Take notes....and ask questions if it makes you feel better. There's a "rock" over here in Columbus......if you need to vent. Prayers and vibes as long as you need them....but I'll be thinking about you all day tomorrow! Good stuff Bunzy! JoJo, My best to you my friend. It sounds like your holding all the ropes together. I can't imagine having to deal w/ this, but you have a lot of very interested sincere people here pulling for her. This Huddle Mojo works. God Bless, my prayers are w/ you, your daughter, and your family. And I repeat "There's a "rock" over here in Columbus and Winfield.....if you need to vent." PM me your number, I'm callin'! I'm here for you bro! Tom Robin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DemonKnight Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Wow, that sucks. Best of luck with everything. I hope all goes well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocknrobn26 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 JoJo, Check your PM's. We are all here for you! rr26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gunther Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Glad the doctor was on the ball and caught it. I can't add anymore than has already been said. What a great community of support we have in The Huddle. Positive thoughts to your daughter, you and your family JoJo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaP'N GRuNGe Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 My prayers and thoughts are with your daughter and the family. All the best for tomorrow and for whatever comes next. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TDFFFreak Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 (edited) Please hang in there. That is horrible news and while it's admirable that you want to stay strong for your wife, you need to let her and others know that you to are scared and upset. Good thoughts sent your way. Edited October 20, 2007 by TDFFFreak Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 JoJo, you and your daughter are in my prayers. If you have to break down, then you have to break down... there is nothing wrong with that at all. In fact, breaking down for a bit might actually clear your mind somewhat and allow you to think about things more calmly and rationally than if you kept everything all bottled up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylive5 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 There is no reason to feel sorry for coming here to your friends and venting about something like this my friend. This is the place to do it for sure....because the people here listen and try their darndest to help out however they can. You hang in there and continue to be the person you are. We are here for you and your daughter. My absolute best wishes for a good outcome today for her...and like rr and bunz have said... you need something...call. We are only a PM of a phone number away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dhali Lama Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Prayers, thoughts, and positive vibes heading your way from NY. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 your daughter and your family will be in my thoughts. I think you deal with problems the way I do. It's good you came here. Knowing there are people supporting you and thinking about you can be very helpful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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