Czarina Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 We have to travel to a wedding planned for July 3. I'd prefer to offer to send a gift in the amount of what it's going to cost me for a freaking hotel room for one night right before July 4th. Argh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clubfoothead Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Yep, that's lame. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylive5 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Granted that I don't know these people that are getting married, so I am out of the loop on your obligation to attend, but they seem a bit inconsiderate for sure. I'd send a card. "Sorry, we have better things to do than fight traffic and spends lots of money to attend. Have a nice wedding. Love and kisses, Czar." On the other hand..... it isn't happening during the football season. So one must look to the upside too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bier Meister Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 (edited) beyond really wanting to piss off 150 guests, we held ours over labor day weekend to give some an extra day off. edit: i meant to allow people to have additional time in the area vs feeling rushed back to work. our friends and family seemed to enjoy an extra day in SF. Edited May 31, 2009 by Bier Meister Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 For obnoxious, how about holding it an exotic expensive location, then expecting the guests to pay their own way there? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelBunz Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Almost as obnoxious as holding graduations on Mother's Day. The schools say, "What better Mother's Day gift than to have your child graduate??" I say they are taking away the emphasis on Moms for the day. And our we supposed to ignore our own Moms to attend a graduation party? Just bad timing all around. I say send the gift, Czar......lol. I can see where in-season hotel reservations for the event would cost a fortune. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chavez Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 For obnoxious, how about holding it an exotic expensive location, then expecting the guests to pay their own way there? Any excuse to go to the Caribbean is a good one, IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muck Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Yes ... send a gift (unless it's close family, then you may be on the hook, regardless). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Jack Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 My wifes childhood best friend passed us an invite to a wedding on New Years eve a couple years ago. It would have been a six hour drive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikesVikes Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 One time I heard about a wedding on the 4th of July and I asked my wife what kind of an idiot gets married on the 4th of July? Her brother got married on the 4th of July. Why, I don't know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikesVikes Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 My nephew is getting married around Labor Day and it's near D.C. I don't think that we'll be able to attend that one since my kid will be playing football. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpwallace49 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 One time I heard about a wedding on the 4th of July and I asked my wife what kind of an idiot gets married on the 4th of July? Her brother got married on the 4th of July. Why, I don't know. So he will never forget his anniversary? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
godtomsatan Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I got married on Labor Day weekend, mostly so my ex-wife's out of town relatives could attend. I did say "ex", so factor that in.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Footballjoe Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I went to my niece's wedding last weekend (Memoril Day). I dd not have a problem with it, in fact having an extra day made for a nice trip to visit with family that I do not get to see often. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Irish Doggy Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I never thought of it that way. We almost had ours on Memorial Day weekend, but 95% of the guests were local. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 (edited) Knew someone that decided to have a wedding on New Years Eve- out of town in NYC. You know I like to drink... No longer friends with them. Edited May 31, 2009 by twiley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Czarina Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 One of my niece's was married on Memorial Day weekend. S'ok, I didn't have anything I wanted to do with that weekend. This is a close relative, so not going isn't an option. Of course, it's an evening wedding and kids aren't invited. It's nearly 3 hours from my house. Sitter available on a holiday weekend. Pfft. I think we're bringing the boys with us to the wedding and then getting them back to the hotel for the evening. Yippee. I'll drive my mom back to the hotel at some point as she won't want to stay at the reception the whole time anyhow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chavez Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I got married on Sept 11th, is that a holiday? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keggerz Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 yes, the wedding should be 100% about the guests and nothing more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Czarina Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 yes, the wedding should be 100% about the guests and nothing more I get what you're saying, but everyone I know who's had a wedding on a long holiday weekend seem to think that they're making it more convenient for their guests. Then again, I guess some people find functions such as these fun. I'm not among that crowd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donutrun Jellies Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I get what you're saying, but everyone I know who's had a wedding on a long holiday weekend seem to think that they're making it more convenient for their guests. Then again, I guess some people find functions such as these fun. I'm not among that crowd. Bingo. What some see as fabulous, others see as torturous ... I'm happy to shell out coin to see a daughter play in an out-of-state sporting event -- but cough it up for the wedding of a second-cousin twice removed that we met once at a funeral? Meh -- I like the send a gift idea ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bier Meister Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Then again, I guess some people find functions such as these fun. I'm not among that crowd. well there you go. i think the holliday is an enhancer for you. you are allready feeling obligated and put out, without the addition logistics of a holliday weekend. if you enjoyed these type of functions (or the people) you might be eager to attend and might enjoy the extra time with family/friends.... and that can really vary based on how close one is to the bride and groom (or family and friends involved in general). my brother is getting married in hawaii in oct. while we will go and have a good time, i think doing weddings like that creates unnecesary challenges for guests. - time: we have a lot or relatives on the east coast. it's asking for 24 hours on a plane. - cost: when holding it at a more exotic locale, one virtually has to extend one's stay to make it more worthwhile. general expense is goign to be more. it's almost saying "if you don't make it, you must not care." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chavez Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 it's almost saying "if you don't make it, you must not care." Eh, I've seen invites that say "your presence is the gift" - I think most who have destination weddings understand that some/a lot of people just can't make it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bier Meister Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Eh, I've seen invites that say "your presence is the gift" - I think most who have destination weddings understand that some/a lot of people just can't make it. i don't disagree with you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cunning Runt Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 My wifes childhood best friend passed us an invite to a wedding on New Years eve a couple years ago. It would have been a six hour drive. My wife and I got married on New Year's Eve - a Thursday that year. We figured that everyone would have a three day weekend after it. It was a great time. Well-attended. Big freaking party. As much a New Year's Eve party as it was a wedding reception. I can see the rationale. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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