Azazello1313 Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 just get out the back, jack. make a new plan, stan. no need to be coy, roy. just get yourself free. seriously though, no one here can answer that for you. i will say though that sometimes feeling that pressure to take things to the next level can make her less appealing in the short term in a way that, later on, you'll miss her a lot and regret not sticking it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Front Row Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 1. Don't settle. If YOU are not sure , wait. 2. Don't feel/be pressured into doing anything. 3. Never, never let a woman make an important decision FOR you. (with you is different) My .02 And pics would be helpfull Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Tell her to make you a sammich and grab you a beer while you decide on her fate. Wimmin dig that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vicky Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Too many people get married and have families together simply because they've been together a long time, things seem nifty, and they're around the right age when everyone else does things like get married and have families. Then they end up getting divorced within 10 years. If you're already saying that she's not the one, why stick around to do all that? She may be great and you may get along ok, but forcing more than that because she's there and you don't want to be alone? Not good enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 If she's not the one then end it. Plain and simple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Controller Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 (edited) Is it possible that you are harboring latent homosexual tendencies, and that is at the center of your indecisiveness? If so, do this gal a favor and move on, homo. Edited April 6, 2007 by Controller Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Is it possible that you are harboring latent homosexual tendencies, and that is at the center of your indecisiveness? If so, do this gal a favor and move on, homo. Solid Huddle advice right here folks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Is it possible that you are harboring latent homosexual tendencies, and that is at the center of your indecisiveness? If so, do this gal a favor and move on, homo. Yep, but I thought that was obvious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Irish Doggy Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 You make her sound like a drinking buddy more than a GF. Compatible?!? "We're so compatible, baby. Will you marry me?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 (edited) What is the expected opportunity cost of staying with her? To calculate this, you would need to solve an equation along the lines of: Z = (Px*Hx - Hy) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^2 + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^3 + ... + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^n where: Z = the opportunity cost of staying with the current woman Px = probability of hooking up with a "better" woman Hx = the happiness you will get from being with a "better" woman Hy = the happiness you get from being with current woman d = the rate at which you discount future happiness n = number of years you estimate are left in your life If Z > 0, then you should dump your current woman. (Edit to add: I am assuming that you are risk-neutral.) (In reality, the actual equation that he should solve is a little bit trickier, but for simplicity I decided to avoid the use of integral calculus and probability distributions because the basic idea I am trying to get across is the same.) Edited April 6, 2007 by wiegie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
REZ Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Is it possible that you are harboring latent homosexual tendencies, and that is at the center of your indecisiveness? If so, do this gal a favor and move on, homo. Controller! 'bout time you dragged your butt back in here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irish Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 What is the expected opportunity cost of staying with her? To calculate this, you would need to solve an equation along the lines of: Z = (Px*Hx - Hy) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d) + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^2 + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^3 + ... + (Px*Hx - Hy)/ (1+d)^n where: Z = the opportunity cost of staying with the current woman Px = probability of hooking up with a "better" woman Hx = the happiness you will get from being with a "better" woman Hy = the happiness you get from being with current woman d = the rate at which you discount future happiness n = number of years you estimate are left in your life If Z > 0, then you should dump your current woman. (Edit to add: I am assuming that you are risk-neutral.) (In reality, the actual equation that he should solve is a little bit trickier, but for simplicity I decided to avoid the use of integral calculus and probability distributions because the basic idea I am trying to get across is the same.) You must be single. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 You must be single. worse, he married a stinky french chick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irish Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 worse, he married a stinky french chick. He's married to Dr. Sac.?!? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big John Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 worse, he married a stinky french chick. She is Swiss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 He spoiled Swiss Miss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irish Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 She is Swiss. He spoiled Swiss Miss. Did her package come with those firm marshmallows? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wildcat2334 Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Hang in there! Get married, become even more miserable and enjoy the divorce at 45. Then you can look back at the 10 years of misery like so many others I know that weren't sure but settled. Life's too short. Cut and run. Yep- if it is just out of convenience and being mid 30's- get out before it really gets serious. Sh1t, mid 30's is nothin these days anyway- us guys can always go young- which is a beautiful thang. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cameltosis Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 I would get her in the sack and try all of things she would never let you do before. If she does them, keep her around for a while. If she denies you, it wasnt meant to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H8tank Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 She's putting heat on b/c she wants to know where we're going. Then you need to take a break, both of you need to chill and think about your futures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Country Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 He spoiled Swiss Miss. Not a chance Swiss Miss would go for wiegie... she's too tall for him. And a Viking fan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azazello1313 Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 "hell hath nothing as scary as a woman who hears her biological clock ticking" - william shakespeare (slightly modified) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yo mama Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 That fact that you had to ask the question in the first place probably gives you all the answer you need. Don't be a Megan Fox. Be honest with yourself, then be honest with her. If that merely entails telling her, "I'm not ready now, and I honestly don't know if I ever will be" then so be it, if that's the truth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackass Posted April 6, 2007 Author Share Posted April 6, 2007 i appreciate the replies on this topic. Some posts actually made some pretty good points. I hadn't thought about the possibility that I might be a homo. i do enjoy gladiator movies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted April 6, 2007 Share Posted April 6, 2007 Can I have her phone number after you're done? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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