Jackass Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Just got invited to one. what the hell is this? and most importantly what are my gift giving obligations? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yo mama Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Just got invited to one. what the hell is this? and most importantly what are my gift giving obligations? I would trust there is no gift-giving obligation. If there were, the concept of an engagement party would appear to artificially create a gift-giving obligation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I know about them, but they are becoming a rarity in this day and age(and economy)...I don't think u need to buy a gift until wedding time, if u feel otherwise, just get a nice btl of wine or something along those lines. It's just their party to celebrate the upcoming nuptials, no real etiquette to buy a gift for it. Wow! Weddings are sooooo expensive, my niece just got married. My sis shared with me price/person....outrageous!!! I really need to start saving for that event lol!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebellab Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Mrs. Rebellab's cousin had a destination wedding that we were not going to, and they had a great engagement party. We took a gift just because we knew were not going to the wedding. Besides, it was open bar on a boat on the Mississippi River near Minneapolis. I got more that my share. I couldn't figure out how we got back to the dock, I didn't realize we had turned around. I was a little . So if you plan not to get to the wedding and feel compelled take a gift, but it is not usually expected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pig devilz Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I just got invited to one this week too.....says right on the invite, no gift necessary. Will probly take a bottle of something though.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chief Dick Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 It's kind of like a scanner party or couples shower, but gheyer. Â Have fun homo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brentastic Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I would trust there is no gift-giving obligation. If there were, the concept of an engagement party would appear to artificially create a gift-giving obligation. +1 Â Never heard of one but it seems like another opportunity for the couple to feel more important than they really are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
detlef Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 It's kind of like a scanner party or couples shower, but gheyer. Have fun homo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I've been invited to a couple of them. Typically we bring gifts unless something on the invite says not to. So if the invite doesn't say anything, you are typically expected to get them something off of their registry. The way to do this and still stay in budget is just to split the difference into two presents. For example, you are going to spend $50 on a wedding gift for this couple. Find one thing or a few things that add up to around $25 and then do the same thing again for the wedding. If the invite says "no gifts" we still brought a bottle of something (booze if you are better friends with the guy or wine if you are better friends with the girl). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I think you're supposed to bring a scanner and have people scan special memories. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yukon Cornelius Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I think the sheep loving trailer parker was the expert on them. Spain i think was his name. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Irish Doggy Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Sounds like a couples shower by another name. Be afraid, be very afraid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Square Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Sounds like a couples shower by another name. Be afraid, be very afraid. Hmmm.... I guess I'm a little slow this morning but that is what I took it as. I think they've been called engagement parties before (so they sound less ghey). I guess unless it is an after party the night/day after they got engaged, assume it is a couple shower/engagment party IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Engagement party. Â Several months go by and it's time for the wedding shower. Â Finally the wedding arrives. Â Three gifts for one event. Â I'm cynical about 'engagement parties' and 'wedding showers.' I wouldn't bring a gift on prinicple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skilly Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 What happens if you go to one of these things and bring a gift....basically this is a pre-wedding gift.............then the happy couple decides that they really can't stand each other and the wedding is off. Should you expect to get your gift back, or approximate cost refunded? Â An engagement party not only sounds ghey, but incredibly selfish if you expect gifts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dutch Oven Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 Engagement party. Several months go by and it's time for the wedding shower.  Finally the wedding arrives.  Three gifts for one event.  I'm cynical about 'engagement parties' and 'wedding showers.' I wouldn't bring a gift on prinicple.  I though the rule of thumb was you only had to get the happy couple one gift. If not, it's my rule so if you get a gift at the "engagement party," you're not getting one at the wedding. If you expect one everytime, then you suck donkey balls IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I though the rule of thumb was you only had to get the happy couple one gift. If not, it's my rule so if you get a gift at the "engagement party," you're not getting one at the wedding. If you expect one everytime, then you suck donkey balls IMO. Â You have a logical mind. You could teach logic at the college level. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cunning Runt Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 I think it's pretentious on the part of the engaged couple to expect a gift. Â I've been to one. There were maybe 6-7 couples in attendance. We basically went out out for a nice dinner and then out to some bars. I think their gift was first - the get together itself, and second - most of us bought the couple a shot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dutch Oven Posted February 10, 2010 Share Posted February 10, 2010 You have a logical mind. You could teach logic at the college level. Â :blushes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ABearWithFurniture Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 they are becoming a rarity in this day and age... Â That's probably because most states have still made same-sex marriages illegal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackass Posted February 11, 2010 Author Share Posted February 11, 2010 Engagement party. Several months go by and it's time for the wedding shower.  Finally the wedding arrives.  Three gifts for one event.  I'm cynical about 'engagement parties' and 'wedding showers.' I wouldn't bring a gift on prinicple.  That was my thought exactly. My friend called me bitter. At least i'm not alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yo mama Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 That was my thought exactly. My friend called me bitter. At least i'm not alone. You're not bitter, just cheap. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twiley Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Pretty common around here. Either bring a gift or don't bring one - the couple really won't care. Our friends threw one for us which we didn't ask for and some people brought booze, some brought gifts off the registry, while others didn't bring a thing and ate free food and drank for free so it's up to you which group you want to fall into. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ABearWithFurniture Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 while others didn't bring a thing and ate free food and drank for free... Â 'and we got all their names on a list'... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiegie Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Pretty common around here. Either bring a gift or don't bring one - the couple really won't care. Our friends threw one for us which we didn't ask for and some people brought booze, some brought gifts off the registry, while others didn't bring a thing and ate free food and drank for free so it's up to you which group you want to fall into. I would fall into the group that would simply ignore the invitation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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