rajncajn Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I'd also like to add...divorce is tough enough on children. I know having gone through it twice with my Dad/Mom/Stepmom. You probably already know this, but you must keep your children as separated from your problems with your ex as possible. It tends to give the impression that you are trying to get them to take sides and will only push them away. The best thing you can do is to do your best to support them as much as possible despite the additional distance between you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChuckB Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck KL, I hope it works out for the best. I have to deal with alot of this stuff too and I have to go to court in downtown Detroit, and believe me nothing that is handled by Detroit is ever easy My positive thoughts are with you and the kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AtomicCEO Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I feel very lucky that although my parents were divorced from age 3... I never had to see them go to court against each other, but of course, we had different problems. Good luck, and I hope you all find an amicable solution that doesn't alienate either parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spain Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck! I am afraid you are fighting an uphill battle... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursa Majoris Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 best of luck landy ! What he said. Hope you get the right judge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chief Dick Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck Kevin. And it's pretty easy to tell the kind of person you are by how passionate you will fight for your children. Prayers to you and them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whoopazz Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck bro, good vibes are emanating. Prayers are that it works out for the kids. Unfortunately for you, you have a big disadvantage in being a dad rather than a mom. Thats just the way our system seems to work. If things go south, maybe you could move half way and make it easier to spend time together In any event, it is very important that you remain a mainstay in their lives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juanruiz13 Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck Kev... we'll be thinking about you and your kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Obviously, your wife moving presents a significant change in the shared parenting plan to the point it will no longer be possible to maintain. A moving parent cannot simply move away, even if s/he is primary residential parent because s/he wants to without the permission of the other parent. I know that in florida, the parent who is moving has to demonstrate that it is in the child's best interests to do so. In your case, your wife has to demonstrate the increased benefits (if you will) of moving the children to a new home, new school district, and in such a manner that it will afford them less time with their father. In addition, if you have real evidence that she has said that you will not be able to have visitation with the children during the week, make sure you lawyer has it. In determining custody, a parent who will make it easier for the other parent to have access to the children is looked upon more favorably. You certainly need a good attorney who specializes in family law. You may also need to have a child custody evaluation conducted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Good luck Kevin. Hope everythings turns out for the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelBunz Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Kevin, my brother. I'll be thinking about you guys all day tomorrow! It's hard for me to fathom that ANY judge would take away more shared time from such a great Dad. I really admire how your all have made this HUGH, blended family work so well. Amazing. Remember....stay calm.......cool headed and think positive thoughts. All the prayers and good vibes we can conjure up over here are coming your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Los Gigantes Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 you are in my prayers. I will also conduct any legal research you want me to if you need to appeal! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RWings Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Kevin, My prayers are with you, buddy. Hopefully the judge will realize that the best thing possible is to keep the family together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T_bone65 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Best of Luck Kev, I hope all works out well for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KevinL Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 Obviously, your wife moving presents a significant change in the shared parenting plan to the point it will no longer be possible to maintain. A moving parent cannot simply move away, even if s/he is primary residential parent because s/he wants to without the permission of the other parent. I know that in florida, the parent who is moving has to demonstrate that it is in the child's best interests to do so. In your case, your wife has to demonstrate the increased benefits (if you will) of moving the children to a new home, new school district, and in such a manner that it will afford them less time with their father. In addition, if you have real evidence that she has said that you will not be able to have visitation with the children during the week, make sure you lawyer has it. In determining custody, a parent who will make it easier for the other parent to have access to the children is looked upon more favorably. You certainly need a good attorney who specializes in family law. You may also need to have a child custody evaluation conducted. We already have a motion / request for a guardian ad litum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KevinL Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 Thanks to everybody for all the kind words, prayers, well-wishes and offers of support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 We already have a motion / request for a guardian ad litum. guardian ad litums do not conduct child custody evals, at least not her in florida. they act as advocate for the child and can offer relevant info, but custody evals are done by psychologists who in turn, make recommendations to the Judge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piranha Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Good luck Kev. Prayers and good vibes ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefjay Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 (edited) guardian ad litums do not conduct child custody evals, at least not her in florida. they act as advocate for the child and can offer relevant info, but custody evals are done by psychologists who in turn, make recommendations to the Judge. I don't want to get into too many specifics but my case in NE OH involved a G.A.L. and Unateve is pretty much right on. They act in the best interest of the child. I believe they are paid by the County or State and it's not the best rates I hear so you have to really stay on top of him / her because it's not very lucrative to be a GAL. Anyways, needless to say, a GAL can be a real benefit in your type of case. It helped mine but in the end it didnt' change much but at the time he was a benefit; I mean the whole thing was pretty black and white so he basically just gave his opinion on a pretty clear situation. Same thing in regards to the psychologist. Again no specifics but PM me if you want more info. Edited August 23, 2006 by chiefjay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kid Cid Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I don't want to get into too many specifics but my case in NE OH involved a G.A.L. and Unateve is pretty much right on. They act in the best interest of the child. I believe they are paid by the County or State and it's not the best rates I hear so you have to really stay on top of him / her because it's not very lucrative to be a GAL. Anyways, needless to say, a GAL can be a real benefit in your type of case. It helped mine but in the end it didnt' change much but at the time he was a benefit; I mean the whole thing was pretty black and white so he basically just gave his opinion on a pretty clear situation. Same thing in regards to the psychologist. Again no specifics but PM me if you want more info. I don't want to hijack this thread, Kevin certainly needs all the good vibes he can get. But, the cynic in me looks at your first paragraph and takes that to mean I should look to bribe the GAL. I'm reasonably certain that's not whta you meant, but it could appear that is what you're saying. It's funny, but the wife and I were talking just yesterday about how the one thing we've learned from living in the DC area is to read between the lines and look for the real meaning of what is being said. Just another example of me being conditioned by my environment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefjay Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I don't want to hijack this thread, Kevin certainly needs all the good vibes he can get. But, the cynic in me looks at your first paragraph and takes that to mean I should look to bribe the GAL. I'm reasonably certain that's not whta you meant, but it could appear that is what you're saying. It's funny, but the wife and I were talking just yesterday about how the one thing we've learned from living in the DC area is to read between the lines and look for the real meaning of what is being said. Just another example of me being conditioned by my environment. LOL, no not at all but not a bad idea. Anyway, I meant that he will put this case off to handle more of the lucrative work he may have. By staying on top I mean to call them / visit them as much as you need to to ensure they are doing what they need to do to get their opinion to the magistrate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Squeegiebo Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Anyway, I meant that he will put this case off to handle more of the lucrative work he may have. That's what I thought you meant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Menudo Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Best of luck Kevin, my heart goes out to you. It is obvious how much your kids mean to you, and I will be praying / hoping for the best for both you and your kids. God Bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kid Cid Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 That's what I thought you meant. suck up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
untateve Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 so what happened? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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