theprofessor Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 My father in law (Ray) who is 74 years old had a hemorraghic stroke last week on his way to the golf course. This type of stroke is the most serious type with a 50% higher death rate than a normal blood clot type stroke. Ray is in great physical condition, works out every morning with cardio and weight training. He is a season ticket holder for Oregon State football and is a tremendous christian man. There were no warning signs at all and our family is devastated by this. 3 days after the stroke he was able to squeeze my hand (cognitive, not reactionary) and also give me a thumbs up when responding to my questions. On Friday he took a turn for the worse and is not responding to voice or touch. He has not opened his eyes since this occurred and the doctors spoke to us yesterday to tell us that if we take him off his ventilator he will have a heart attack and die. We are meeting as a family today to make a decision on what to do. I would appreciate your prayers for Ray and to give our family some strength and comfort through these next few days. TIA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Double Agent Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimC Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Thoughts for Ray and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikesVikes Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bier Meister Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 my thoughts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BeeR Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Done, very best to him and yours Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Gopher Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 I don't even know what to say... Sorry for bothering you with emails regarding our draft, as you clearly have far more important things to deal with. Let me know if there is any way I can help. Your family will definitely be in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keggerz Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers sent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelBunz Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers and good vibes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers sent for yall as you work this very hard decision- making process. The Lord is your shepherd and will lead you thru this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaP'N GRuNGe Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers and thoughts for Ray and the whole family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HowboutthemCowboys Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 vibes sent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whomper Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Prayers sent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gilthorp Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Terrible. Try to stay positive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tazinib1 Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Thoughts and prayers buddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theprofessor Posted August 25, 2010 Author Share Posted August 25, 2010 (edited) Thanks guys for all your comments and prayers. The family met yesterday to make sure everyone was on the same page to do what's right and to do what Ray would have wanted. He's a very prideful man and would want to live only if it was in a meaningful way. They did an MRI on him yesterday which clouded the issue even more for why he's taken this turn for the worse. They are running an EEG on him this morning to check his brain activity. His pulmonoligist is telling us that the most we can expect is for him to be bed ridden and breathing and eating from a tube for the rest of his life. We know, that is not what he would want. If the EEG comes back with no hope we will probably make a decision to take him off the ventilator until he has a cardiac event and passes. This was so unexpected and sudden. Pick up the phone today and call your parents and tell them that you love them. Tell your children every day how much they mean to you. Thanks again for taking the time to share your feelings. Edited August 25, 2010 by theprofessor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theprofessor Posted August 25, 2010 Author Share Posted August 25, 2010 I don't even know what to say... Sorry for bothering you with emails regarding our draft, as you clearly have far more important things to deal with. Let me know if there is any way I can help. Your family will definitely be in my thoughts. How could you have known? Thanks for the thoughtful response. The draft is a welcome release for me when going through these things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muck Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 I am so sorry to hear this ... my dad and I are close and see each other often. A big hole in my life will show up when he's gone...I cannot imagine what your wife is going through. I will continue to pray for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puddy Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Thoughts for Ray and your family. +1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SEC=UGA Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 Thoughts and prayers. I know this is a rough time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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